Understanding the Sales Engagement Model with Tom Young | Coach2Scale Episode #88

Tom Young, VP of Sales at BMC Software, joins Matt Benelli to challenge outdated assumptions about how enterprise sales should work. Drawing on decades of experience and a recent moment on the other side of a buying decision, Tom reveals how sellers often leave buyers to navigate complex purchasing decisions alone, leading to stalled deals, weak adoption, and low rep confidence. The problem isn’t buyer intent. It’s a lack of structure, coaching, and guidance.

This conversation gets tactical and strategic. Tom breaks down the myth that buyers know how to buy, why seller-led engagement models outperform passive following, and how high-performing FLMs simplify complexity through coaching, not control. CROs and sales leaders will appreciate the clear through line: when managers teach reps how to lead a buying journey, not just chase a number, sales cycles shorten, win rates improve, and performance becomes repeatable. If you’re building a scalable sales org, this is a must-listen.

Top Takeaways
  • Enterprise buyers often don’t know how to buy software
    Despite assumptions, many buyers lack a defined decision process, which means sellers must guide, not follow, their journey.
  • The best salespeople act as guides, not followers
    When sellers proactively lead buyers through a structured engagement model, the experience improves and adoption increases.
  • Mutual Action Plans need to go beyond the PO date
    Ending your plan at "PO received" signals self-interest; the real impact comes from aligning with the customer’s go-live and success milestones.
  • Effective FLMs sell the engagement model, not the product first
    Top-performing managers train reps to win by selling how the decision will be made, not just what to buy.
  • Sellers must ask the questions buyers should be asking themselves
    High-quality discovery isn't just fact-finding; it helps buyers clarify their own thinking, build confidence, and reduce internal friction.
  • Sales cycles fail when reps abdicate process control
    Letting the buyer “drive” often results in delays, missed stakeholders, and no decision; a structured engagement keeps momentum.
  • Managers must balance pressure with coaching
    Pushing deals without guiding reps through skills and behavior leads to burnout and underperformance.
  • You can’t outsource coaching and rep development
    Even strong enablement and RevOps support can’t replace the day-to-day behavioral coaching frontline managers must deliver.
  • One-on-ones are not for pipeline inspection—they’re for skill development
    Coaching isn’t about the forecast; it’s about improving rep effectiveness so the forecast becomes more predictable.
  • Every manager needs a consistent, inspectable operating rhythm
    Without structured 1:1s and repeatable frameworks, rep development becomes ad hoc, and performance becomes unpredictable.

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Creators and Guests

Matt Benelli
Host
Matt Benelli
Co-Founder, CoachEm™ * Proud Dad/Husband * Entrepreneur * Leader * Coach * Risk Taker
Mike Montague
Producer
Mike Montague
Founder of Avenue9, a Human-First AI Marketing Agency
Understanding the Sales Engagement Model with Tom Young | Coach2Scale Episode #88
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